This has been getting to me for a while now. Every single day is the national day of something now, and I know it hasn’t always been that way. Today, for instance, is National Avocado Day, National Raspberry Cake day, and National Mutt Day. I’m not kidding. Does anyone else find this absurd, or is it just me?
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. Brown paper packages tied up with strings. We all have our favorite things.
When you’re feeling down or stressed, what do you reach out for? What do you do? For me, it’s my family, my cat, Doctor Who, a good book, or just take a nap.
Are there things that automatically bring a smile to your face? The new Marvel movie coming out? Kitten pictures? Your child randomly using an advanced vocabulary word? Maybe that one is just me.
I’m curious. What are your favorite things?
Ever notice how right before you leave for vacation, a million million things pop up that you have to take care of RIGHT NOW? But-But-But I still haven’t packed! I need to finish this draft and get it out to my beta readers. Gah! What about you? Ever feel so busy, you just might lost it a little? Or a lot?
I really hate to hate someone. It actually takes quite a lot to get me to that point. Not only that, but hate does nothing to hurt the other person, it only eats at you until your hate has consumed so much of you, it alters who you are. Pretty soon, the hate of one person leads to the hate of someone else, which leads to the hate of someone else, and so on. You’re the one unhappy and suffering, while the other person is living on with their lives. Next thing you know, Anakin Skywalker has turned into Darth Vader, a completely different person than the annoying little kid with a podracer.
When I feel like I’m going in that direction, I take a few deep breaths and consider all these things. Do I really want to waste my time, my life on something as negative and poisonous as hate? No. There are much better things to do with my life.
What about you? How do you handle it when the temptation of hate enters into the fray?
You may notice that my characters often deal with frustration. That’s because it’s something I personally struggle with. How do you handle it?